One of the biggest barriers to our practice of compassion and ethics is the old and VERY outdated idea that by doing good and being compassionate we somehow have to sacrifice our own happiness and well being for someone else. The key to overcoming this is understanding that practising good actions and compassion is really a form of enlightened self interest; the reality is, by doing good we will feel good to!
To gain firsthand experience of this, think of a compassionate act, great or small (NO act is too small) that you engaged in recently. When you bring it to mind and focus on it, how does it make you feel? Feels good to have done it right? So, my suggestion for a 30 second compassionate experiment is this:
Whenever you do something caring, compassionate and or ethical, take 30 seconds after the event just sit, breathe with and appreciate what you have done. It is not ego we are talking of here, just recognition and appreciation of the act. At the end of that 30 seconds you will feel good, and this feel good factor will strengthen your intention to do such acts again; you’ll want to do good because you KNOW it makes you feel good!
Doing good because it makes you feel good is a COMPLETELY different act from “doing the right thing because we feel obliged to”, which in the long term tends to deplete our energy and, consciously or subconsciously resent the “sacrificial “actions that we are engaging in.
NOTE: This is the second in a series of articles on 30 second techniques for strengthening your compassionate heart and ethical intelligence, click HERE to see the first article.
© Toby Ouvry 2010, please do not reproduce without permission
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